Wednesday, September 3, 2014

Staying strong during this difficult time

The last two weeks have been a little surreal for me & my husband, Pappy is back in the nursing home and Hospice has been called in to help keep him comfy now, but it's so hard to see him in this state. He's tired, and in pain, and it just makes you feel so helpless.......because we are helpless. There isn't much we can do other than be there for him, and make sure he is as comfortable as possible. Tomorrow will be hard because we have to leave to attend a funeral and then a memorial on Friday. 

As you know an aunt passed away on Saturday morning ( I think, my days are all starting to run together now) and it is her memorial we'll be going to on Friday.

And if you think things couldn't get any worse, they can......late Sunday evening I got a call from my brother telling me that my step-father passed away!! So my mother lost a sister & her husband within 24 hrs of each other.  His funeral is on Thursday.

Can I tell you that this is just all a bit overwhelming, and yet, so far it hasn't really affected me. I mean, I think right now I am in that mode of being super strong for my husband, trying to do what I can to help him deal with the idea that his father is dying. So, typically for me, my grief will start when I know everyone else is doing OK. 

We haven't even seen my mother yet, she is three hours away so there isn't much we can do to help her at the moment. Thank goodness we aren't any further away, otherwise it would be tough to be there for her during this time. My stepfather's funeral is Thursday and that will be the first chance I get to see her and make sure she is coping with her tremendous loss.   

I'm sorry that I've been a Debbie Downer in my last couple of posts, but this stuff happens to all of us, losing loved ones, and we all deal with it in our own way. My thought right now is, we'll get through this, we always do. I'm taking one day at a time, that's all I can do to help my husband and my mother get through these tough times.  

No need to get stressed out about it, it is what it is, God needed two special angels and soon he will have three.

4 comments:

  1. Anonymous2:44:00 PM

    My thoughts to you during this extremely difficult time. Cathy

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  2. I so wish there was something I could do to help you, girlfriend. I'll just add all of this to my prayers, and hope you know that my big old shoulders are here when you need them. My deepest sympathies all around. <3

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    1. Thanks so much Nancy, this has been such an emotional last 2 weeks. Rick & I are both so tired and just want it to be over. Pappy just won't give up, he's a tough little man and I think he won't go until he's seen all of his boys. Ronny is on his way but Rob is waiting until he has to come back. Very emotional. Thanks again GF, we will get through this.

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